Long Distance, yay or nay?

[Balla_Chik]

I get stuck in long distance type relationships or interests, but not by choice. People far away from me appeal to me a lot more than people i see and hear everyday, just cuz you learn about a person's mindset and opinion before you can judge them over first impressions. I've had a really good long distance relationship, at least while it lasted. He was my best bud first then bf, and now we're great friends again. Its not impossible, but as weird as it may sound, you become really physically deprived, which sucks. Even a hug or holding hands or something. I'm ready to experience the real thing though, can never find a guy whos more appealing to my mind than my eyes.

[nycballa88]

i dont really see ne thing wrong with em

[Balla_Chik]

have you ever been in one?

[nycballa88]

have you ever been in one?
kinda, the girl liked me, but i tried to stay away nd not let her get like "in love" with me cuz there was way too much shit in my life at the time. but she still kept thinkin it.w/e we still friends

[sapno_di_rani03]

hmmm....yay...i say if you feel it go for it
~Charmi~

[nautika]

in my own experience...it didnt work

so nay

[Musalman]

in my own experience...it didnt work

so nay
Well
Hypothetically
If I meet a girl,sure,if it doesn't last than it wasn't meant to happen at that moment

[nautika]

Well
Hypothetically
If I meet a girl,sure,if it doesn't last than it wasn't meant to happen at that moment

but then ur puttin ur hopes up...thats heartbreakin :(

[Musalman]

but then ur puttin ur hopes up...thats heartbreakin :(
I think heartbreaks fix me
maybe not in the short run
but in the long run they make me more mature and less expectant of unrealistically good things.
it may sound bad,but it really is good for my development

[Bella]

I've been in one. It's a waste of time because it almost never works out. I don't know how some people do it but the distance kills. Seriously, why would someone want a phone and a computer screen? I'd rather have someone I could actually feel next to me and be able to talk to face to face.

[nautika]

I think heartbreaks fix me
maybe not in the short run
but in the long run they make me more mature and less expectant of unrealistically good things.
it may sound bad,but it really is good for my development

man its like we are the same ppl..i have the same feeling..just didnt feel like elaboratin in my last post

i dont regret anyone..im so much stronger cuz of my experiences with them

[pimps]

I've been in one. It's a waste of time because it almost never works out. I don't know how some people do it but the distance kills. Seriously, why would someone want a phone and a computer screen? I'd rather have someone I could actually feel next to me and be able to talk to face to face.

:wiggle: now i know what u meant by no more pimps parkinglotPIMP :king:

[Musalman]

man its like we are the same ppl..i have the same feeling..just didnt feel like elaboratin in my last post

i dont regret anyone..im so much stronger cuz of my experiences with them
Yeah totally
Those people who have such a negative outlook on life/negative attitude because of the failure of relationships annoy the hell out of me.

If the status of your relationships or past relationships affects your attitude or happiness,you've got some serious issues.

People need to learn to grow up and quit whining and bitching about how girls suck or about how guys suck just because of a couple shitty relationships.

[Balla_Chik]

Yeah totally
Those people who have such a negative outlook on life/negative attitude because of the failure of relationships annoy the hell out of me.

If the status of your relationships or past relationships affects your attitude or happiness,you've got some serious issues.

People need to learn to grow up and quit whining and bitching about how girls suck or about how guys suck just because of a couple shitty relationships.
Hallelujah to that brotha!

And i'm tired of those stupid people who have a new interest every week and fall in love every week, but somehow still believe that they wont ever find the right guy or girl. Helloo?! How about maybe giving it some time. gosh.

But chea, long distance is tough, but i think it makes everything a little bit better, a lil bit stronger, then when you see em its like... a dream. Pretty neat if ya ask me.

[Musalman]

Hallelujah to that brotha!

And i'm tired of those stupid people who have a new interest every week and fall in love every week, but somehow still believe that they wont ever find the right guy or girl. Helloo?! How about maybe giving it some time. gosh.

But chea, long distance is tough, but i think it makes everything a little bit better, a lil bit stronger, then when you see em its like... a dream. Pretty neat if ya ask me.
mhmmm
those annoying whiners that spend time crying about how 'all guys suck'

but then a month later they 'fall in love'

[po0kie]

stay away from those. They hardly ever work out.

[SaNaLuVsYoOh]

long distant relationships are gay.. cuz how do u no ur boy/grls not havin bfs/gfs in other states? u can like some one far away..after a while it fades off.. its jusy gay and useless.. [[sorry im harsh]] but its true. long distance relations ships r over the net, u cant hug and cuddle online can u? lol..
well... thas my opinion..dunno abt u guys, i think long distance relation ships r gay and dont work out.
*SaNa*

[Punjabi_]

long distant relationships are gay.. cuz how do u no ur boy/grls not havin bfs/gfs in other states? u can like some one far away..after a while it fades off.. its jusy gay and useless.. [[sorry im harsh]] but its true. long distance relations ships r over the net, u cant hug and cuddle online can u? lol..
well... thas my opinion..dunno abt u guys, i think long distance relation ships r gay and dont work out.
*SaNa*

did you have a long distance relationship?

[Balla_Chik]

long distant relationships are gay.. cuz how do u no ur boy/grls not havin bfs/gfs in other states? u can like some one far away..after a while it fades off.. its jusy gay and useless.. [[sorry im harsh]] but its true. long distance relations ships r over the net, u cant hug and cuddle online can u? lol..
well... thas my opinion..dunno abt u guys, i think long distance relation ships r gay and dont work out.
*SaNa*
You're right. Its super hard to be faithful and patient, thats why my long distance relationship didnt work out. Eventhough the comfort of each other's voices and same dreams, I lost patience and the guy wasnt faithful. While it lasted, it was great though. Won't deny that.

[BeautyInTheBreakdown]

yeah i agree too, it's tough but it depends on how far away. this one guy (who's like my best friend and we both have feelins for eachother) lives in london and i live in u.s and we both know its never gonna work, so we don't wanna jepordize our friendship u know?

[hate]

yeah i agree too, it's tough but it depends on how far away. this one guy (who's like my best friend and we both have feelins for eachother) lives in london and i live in u.s and we both know its never gonna work, so we don't wanna jepordize our friendship u know?

Good call...


:cool:

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[Such_a_Cutie]

yeah i agree too, it's tough but it depends on how far away. this one guy (who's like my best friend and we both have feelins for eachother) lives in london and i live in u.s and we both know its never gonna work, so we don't wanna jepordize our friendship u know?


yeah friendship is worth a lot more to me.
luckily, i've never fallen for any of my friends


i've had some shitty friends though lol

[BeautyInTheBreakdown]

hahah, thanks guyss..! yeah friendship is wayyy more important to me aswellll, luckily i havent had any shitty friends, i've had friends that change like crazy which is depressing lol

[creamyvailla]

i don't think they can ever work..its hard to love a guy thats so far away..u'll miss seeing him..hearing his voice isn't everything..and then there will be some guys that are close to you that you want to go out w/ but can't cuz ur stuck in a long term relationship...personally..i think the love fades away the further u get..unless its true love...then its different? :wiggle:

[Musalman]

i don't think they can ever work..its hard to love a guy thats so far away..u'll miss seeing him..hearing his voice isn't everything..and then there will be some guys that are close to you that you want to go out w/ but can't cuz ur stuck in a long term relationship...personally..i think the love fades away the further u get..unless its true love...then its different? :wiggle:
I think you may have spellt your username wrong

[Balla_Chik]

I think you may have spellt your username wrong
lol good call.

wow US and London! That's way crazy! Distance is definitely a relationship determining factor though. If you're willing to work through it, more power to you. But yeah, i find friendship really important too. Its kinna crazy, my first love was a long distance relationship. We started off as best friends and we still are. I guess that's a good friendship.

Shitty friends can kiss my bum :mad:

[midtownmadnesses]

long distance relationships can work..but it all depends on da persons involved in it...its gotta be way more mature than a normal face-to-face relationship becuz there needs to be lot more committment and focus..I've been in two and one uv them worked out pretty well unless we chose 2 go our own ways...but yeah it might seem appealing in da beginnin and fade out in da process so it all depends on how two people work it out...

[BeautyInTheBreakdown]

hahah, lol. it is crazy but whatever, we din't date..and Balla_Chik wow you're lucky lol, that happened to alot of my friends (not longdist.relationships) but dated their best friends and then when they break up they dont even talk for like yearsssss, so its sad, but you're damn lucky you guys prolly have an amazing friendship.. but yeah, for a long dist relationship, both people have to be reallly commited and strong and in love to work it out!

[SaNaLuVsYoOh]

did you have a long distance relationship?


no i havent had long distance relationships. its just fuckin common sense ya no? havin a bf online? face reality and find a real one.
but hey, this is my opinion. yall can agree or disagree.. but it makes sense doesnt it?

[sapno_di_rani03]

no i havent had long distance relationships. its just fuckin common sense ya no? havin a bf online? face reality and find a real one.
but hey, this is my opinion. yall can agree or disagree.. but it makes sense doesnt it?

long distance doesn;t have to be just internet it can be like phone...and maybe like a couple of hours of away kind of thing...it is reality...not like never met each other relationships cause sometimes those don['t turn out right.. :neutral:

~Charmi~

[midtownmadnesses]

long distance doesn;t have to be just internet it can be like phone...and maybe like a couple of hours of away kind of thing...it is reality...not like never met each other relationships cause sometimes those don['t turn out right.. :neutral:

~Charmi~

yeah they do!
Agreed!

[BeautyInTheBreakdown]

relationships where 2 people meet online? i doubt they work out. that's crazy. how can you even trust that person?

[Balla_Chik]

you can consider "e-dating" long distance. There are people who really do take it seriously, as lame as it may sound. And it may not always workout, but it happens. Cuz for some people, it does work out :)

i wasnt referring to online dating though. I met my ex in LA and thats how we first got introduced to each other. I saw him a few times and so thats what made it long distance. Juss the fact that he wasnt here. We used the internet as a source of communication, but besides that we both had phones.

Never having met someone is a huge risk though. They really can turn out to be fat lards juss chillin on the computer.

Midtown: Yeah, my long distance thing was a success, and it would've continued to be. I completely agree with the whole being mature thing. It's on a whole different level if you're willing to commit. Good for you! I personally like it because you become so mentally attached that the physical part of it isnt what makes up your relationship. That can come after.

Beauty: Thanks! It really is a weird relationship. Most potential boys dun enjoy that part of my life, but i have to make it clear so that they can understand. And for a lot of people that isnt what happens. It has its ups and downs lol.

[midtownmadnesses]

Midtown: Yeah, my long distance thing was a success, and it would've continued to be. I completely agree with the whole being mature thing. It's on a whole different level if you're willing to commit. Good for you! I personally like it because you become so mentally attached that the physical part of it isnt what makes up your relationship. That can come after.

Hey u know what I absolutely agree...my long distance did work out for a while actually but then issues came up...so we jus decided to give each other a break...but yeah I like feeling for some1 that deep who also feels for me...you can always be the same person you are but you will not look the same when you grow to a certain age...the physical thing is important but immaterial when you're thinkin of eternity...so yeah if I had some1 mature and caring...I would still go for it considerin it a future outcome...

[Izzat786]

ive been in a long distance relationship for 18 months. shes in ohio, im in tennessee. it can work. it depends on how bad you want it to work.

[Parth]

ive been in a long distance relationship for 18 months. shes in ohio, im in tennessee. it can work. it depends on how bad you want it to work.
heyy ,, where do u live in tennessee??

[Izzat786]

nashville area, why are u from here too?

[Parth]

nashville area, why are u from here too?
i live in elizabethtown,ky .. i come to nashville alot thoo

[Hudda_Budda]

from what i've seen, long distance relationships strengthen the relationship itself. Like, if you get to talk to someone all the time and are still into her after knowing everything about them (which you will if you talk to them every night), it's more about personality than physical keeping the two of you together. My brother, Izzy, and some other friends have all been in long distance relationships, and they've gone strong.

Basically, it will work if the guy or girl is right. If your bf or gf cheats on you just cuz you weren't there, it definitely wasn't meant to be. Long dist relationships are usually meant to be long term...

Also, it helps to meet up often. My brother sees his girl at least once a month. They are like 4 hours a part. The thing about being desi is that we are more likely to have a long distance relationship, because options are limited in your locality. I definitely am not interested in a relationship with anyone near me.

[Izzat786]

ah another brown person from a really white state. we are a rare species down here lol.

[Izzat786]

from what i've seen, long distance relationships strengthen the relationship itself. Like, if you get to talk to someone all the time and are still into her after knowing everything about them (which you will if you talk to them every night), it's more about personality than physical keeping the two of you together. My brother, Izzy, and some other friends have all been in long distance relationships, and they've gone strong.

Basically, it will work if the guy or girl is right. If your bf or gf cheats on you just cuz you weren't there, it definitely wasn't meant to be. Long dist relationships are usually meant to be long term...

Also, it helps to meet up often. My brother sees his girl at least once a month. They are like 4 hours a part. The thing about being desi is that we are more likely to have a long distance relationship, because options are limited in your locality. I definitely am not interested in a relationship with anyone near me.


you arent interested in the girls here bc they are all fugly lol

[Hudda_Budda]

that too, lol...

[Parth]

ah another brown person from a really white state. we are a rare species down here lol.
lol yeaa truu .. but thers alot of indain in louisville .. isnt ther bunch in nashville too?

[Izzat786]

yeah there are a ton here in nashville. how old are you?

[Balla_Chik]

from what i've seen, long distance relationships strengthen the relationship itself. Like, if you get to talk to someone all the time and are still into her after knowing everything about them (which you will if you talk to them every night), it's more about personality than physical keeping the two of you together. My brother, Izzy, and some other friends have all been in long distance relationships, and they've gone strong.

Basically, it will work if the guy or girl is right. If your bf or gf cheats on you just cuz you weren't there, it definitely wasn't meant to be. Long dist relationships are usually meant to be long term...

Also, it helps to meet up often. My brother sees his girl at least once a month. They are like 4 hours a part. The thing about being desi is that we are more likely to have a long distance relationship, because options are limited in your locality. I definitely am not interested in a relationship with anyone near me.

Great minds think alike :D

You stole the words from my mouth. I loved the fact that my long distance buddy was also my best friend. He was and is just about one of the only people that knows me inside and out. And that is the effect of getting to know each other by talking every day. Sometimes ya juss know. And its true. Reno lacks in the nice guys too. I'm pretty sure iwont be finding my life partner here.

[Hudda_Budda]

oh there are nice girls here, girls you could marry...

but i'm kinda picky, they are all, i guess icne there's no better word for it, plain.

[nycballa88]

Great minds think alike :D

You stole the words from my mouth. I loved the fact that my long distance buddy was also my best friend. He was and is just about one of the only people that knows me inside and out. And that is the effect of getting to know each other by talking every day. Sometimes ya juss know. And its true. Reno lacks in the nice guys too. I'm pretty sure iwont be finding my life partner here.
thats why ur moving in with me duh

[IDILYOU]

long distance relationships are gay.

its sort of like e-love. :ugh:

[Parth]

long distance relationships are gay.

its sort of like e-love. :ugh:
thats how me n neha r .. were e datin

[Chica17]

Hey I seen Louisville sumwhere on here! I go to Louisville every week! Theres quite a few indians in the "Kentuckia" area. I'm in Harrison County, like 1/2 way from Louisville. But long distance relationships suck! I've been in one w/ this guy for 5 years. We've been w/ eachother 3 times. Its really tough but I think wat makes people in long distance relationships go on is "hope." U just think abt the next time u'll meet and u hope u'll be together. U have to really trust the person ur with. Like for ex. w/ me..we want to be w/ eachother badly so thats whats making us go on, like just till next year then we can be w/ eachother. but its so hard to keep going on. If u have a choice, I say dont get into a long distance relationship unless u and that person have sumthing really special goin on!

[slybhavik]

haha..ld'srealtionships are funni...u have to really trust ur partner to tht relationship..i mean no doubt some work...but tht kinda shit so rare to see..i have seen many devoted lovers go seperate ways nd promise to luv each other nd be together forever but within a week both partners have a side hoe kinda thing goin..haha..all i'll say is enjoy ur life...be wth who u want when u want..and dnt b afraid to take risk's in relatioships cause thts the best pt bout it...if ur a good person nd have a gud heart nd believe so does ur partner then by all means try the long distance things...have fun...nd gud luck to all who try..lol..

[ma1pakiboi]

hey ..you..well i guess with long distance relationships, it all matters what you define as a relationship first..if meeting a person once and fallin in love with them then just being able ot talk to them considered a realtionship?..personally i dont think so even if you are completely commited to one another..unless there is a garunteed goal or some sort of engagement how can you find complete comfort in someone you only talk to and have never met..or never get to see after a while you will get tired of it and want to find the eye candy around you someone wher eyou can share your physical and emotional feelings with..so unless the long ditance is periodical i dont think its a great idea especially if you have no garuntee in meeting since there are way too many peple out there in the world ot meet.. i mean its alwasy to keep each other as options open just incase you happen to want to make it work and do