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STYLEgod
03-23-2006, 04:53 PM
IF your bf/gf or 'date' (that two of you were about to make a commitment) cheated on you just once in a moment of weakness but he/she promised it would never happen again and he/she promised to spend the rest of his/her life making it up to you.
Would you forgive him/her?
Remember this isn't a question for myself so think of me playing as a Devil's Advocate. The opinion of yours may applies others who may have this question in mind.
LAKERFAN8
03-23-2006, 05:53 PM
Yes. As long as she is not pregnant.
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kraziiags
03-26-2006, 08:21 PM
I might but if we were in a relationship again, I would literally rule every aspect of his life. He would have to answer to my every question.
TheMystry
03-26-2006, 08:24 PM
:idea:
Chabbo
03-26-2006, 08:31 PM
actualy im strongly against cheating. But i was in a weird situation where my bf kinda hurt me by flirting with other girls, we even broke up once because he wanted to date other ppl. We got back togeher many times after that. My point being, i forgave him many times because i loved him. But, it was very hard trusting him. Because i started to doubt everything he said. I thought i never forgive, but i did. But the time after that was very hard. maybe its just better to let go the first time. Cos a cheater never changes. Few do anyways. And if they make a habbit of hurting you like that repeatedly, they dont realy love you.
pimps
03-26-2006, 08:33 PM
actualy im strongly against cheating. But i was in a weird situation where my bf kinda hurt me by flirting with other girls, we even broke up once because he wanted to date other ppl. We got back togeher many times after that. My point being, i forgave him many times because i loved him. But, it was very hard trusting him. Because i started to doubt everything he said. I thought i never forgive, but i did. But the time after that was very hard. maybe its just better to let go the first time. Cos a cheater never changes. Few do anyways. And if they make a habbit of hurting you like that repeatedly, they dont realy love you.
did he cheat or just flirt with other girls
Chabbo
03-26-2006, 08:44 PM
did he cheat or just flirt with other girls
it was a weird situation. I guess he flirted. But i dont know, i told him what i thought about that, and he did it regardless. It got to a point wher i just couldnt handle it anymore.
pimps
03-26-2006, 08:45 PM
it was a weird situation. I guess he flirted. But i dont know, i told him what i thought about that, and he did it regardless. It got to a point wher i just couldnt handle it anymore.
but is flirting cheating prolly depends on how far he went flirting if it was serious or playful
Chabbo
03-26-2006, 08:49 PM
but is flirting cheating prolly depends on how far he went flirting if it was serious or playful
I'm not a jealous woman. I think he took it far. And i told him how i felt about it, he did it regardless right in front of me. I felt if he was willing to jeopardise what we had, over and over. It wasn't worth saving. Hardest thing I've ever done.
pimps
03-26-2006, 08:53 PM
I'm not a jealous woman. I think he took it far. And i told him how i felt about it, he did it regardless right in front of me. I felt if he was willing to jeopardise what we had, over and over. It wasn't worth saving. Hardest thing I've ever done.
ur right if it bugs u so much and he said he loves u he should have stoppped. how long were u 2 together
Chabbo
03-26-2006, 08:56 PM
ur right if it bugs u so much and he said he loves u he should have stoppped. how long were u 2 together
It would have been a year in May :)
We were on and off after the first time we broke up. But almost together for a year.
pimps
03-26-2006, 08:58 PM
It would have been a year in May :)
We were on and off after the first time we broke up. But almost together for a year.
cant beleive he did it in front of u, he just wanted it to end
Chabbo
03-26-2006, 09:03 PM
cant beleive he did it in front of u, he just wanted it to end
Maybe :)
In that case, i got the hint. Lowed and clear. Its hard being hurt by people you love so much.
Balla_Chik
03-27-2006, 12:18 AM
To be honest, everyone falls weak and i think they should be given a chance to prove that they arent as low and untrustworthy as you think they are.
I've forgiven, but its not easily forgotten. For me, i wont give em a second chance just for the hell of it, but weirdly because i understand how temptation works and people are bound to make mistakes. But there's a limit. I know guys that do the deed and then kiss bum until everything's okay again and then wont cheat again, but i also know a couple that'll feed ya sweet words and pretend like they mean what they say but only hurt ya again. It's not right, but it happens.
I respect girls that won't give the dude a second chance and girls that will try one more time. But I cant work with girls that let it happen over and over again. Same goes for guys too.
I would basically tell her there is the door leave, does not matter how much I am into her... :razz: If they are interested in others I see no reason why they should be tied down and not go and do as they please... :razz:
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nycballa88
03-27-2006, 12:26 AM
To be honest, everyone falls weak and i think they should be given a chance to prove that they arent as low and untrustworthy as you think they are.
I've forgiven, but its not easily forgotten. For me, i wont give em a second chance just for the hell of it, but weirdly because i understand how temptation works and people are bound to make mistakes. But there's a limit. I know guys that do the deed and then kiss bum until everything's okay again and then wont cheat again, but i also know a couple that'll feed ya sweet words and pretend like they mean what they say but only hurt ya again. It's not right, but it happens.
I respect girls that won't give the dude a second chance and girls that will try one more time. But I cant work with girls that let it happen over and over again. Same goes for guys too.
ye my cuz was after this one asshole nd jus let go of family, nd she would stop with him nd go back, on nd off, but finally i tlked some sense into her nd told her to fuckin leave him
Balla_Chik
03-27-2006, 12:27 AM
I would basically tell her there is the door leave, does not matter how much I am into her... :razz: If they are interested in others I see no reason why they should be tied down and not go and do as they please... :razz:
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That's a good point, what if she was begging you to forgive her?
Balla_Chik
03-27-2006, 12:28 AM
ye my cuz was after this one asshole nd jus let go of family, nd she would stop with him nd go back, on nd off, but finally i tlked some sense into her nd told her to fuckin leave him
way to go! Some girls dont realize that they could do so much better!
nycballa88
03-27-2006, 12:31 AM
way to go! Some girls dont realize that they could do so much better!
me nd other cuz fucked up her other ex cuz he kept stalkin her...eh i guess u can say she got probs with relationships
nycballa88
03-27-2006, 12:37 AM
well im out 'nite its 11.30 nd i gotta wake up at f'in 6.30
That's a good point, what if she was begging you to forgive her?
Simple answer, I would tell her NO. If she felt I wasn't enough the first time, what makes it any better now... :) Then again I will forgive her, just not be with her anymore... :razz:
They are weak...
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Balla_Chik
03-27-2006, 02:13 AM
Simple answer, I would tell her NO. If she felt I wasn't enough the first time, what makes it any better now... :) Then again I will forgive her, just not be with her anymore... :razz:
They are weak...
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Thats true, i should learn something lol.
Thats true, i should learn something lol.
Sure do, Just don't get attached and you wont have a problem... :razz:
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xoxsweetlips710xox
04-02-2006, 03:44 PM
a cheater is a cheater...if they can do it once they can do it again
pimps
04-02-2006, 04:07 PM
a cheater is a cheater...if they can do it once they can do it again
what if the cheater changes, it can happen to pimps like me we can change
xoxsweetlips710xox
04-02-2006, 04:17 PM
well if someone realli wants to change they gotta show it but lets say you loved a girl with all your heart i mean like you would die for her but you found out she was sleeping around how hard would it be for her to gain your trust...and would you be able to fully trust her again???
pimps
04-02-2006, 04:25 PM
well if someone realli wants to change they gotta show it but lets say you loved a girl with all your heart i mean like you would die for her but you found out she was sleeping around how hard would it be for her to gain your trust...and would you be able to fully trust her again???
if i loved her that much i would have no option to forgive her, dont u think so?
xoxsweetlips710xox
04-02-2006, 04:30 PM
yea i agree wit you, but would you ever be able to completely trust her??
And a relationship is based on trust...if there is no trust there is no relationship
pimps
04-02-2006, 04:42 PM
yea i agree wit you, but would you ever be able to completely trust her??
And a relationship is based on trust...if there is no trust there is no relationship
unless you have a strong heart you will give in
xoxsweetlips710xox
04-02-2006, 04:47 PM
then you would be a fool to give your heart again to someone that can easily break it....if they realli loved you in the first place they wouldnt have cheated on you there is no reason....doesnt matter if it was a weak moment or you were drunk if you loved someone for real you wouldnt be able to cheat on them
people use so many excuses to why but if they didnt want to they wouldnt
pimps
04-02-2006, 05:02 PM
yea i agree wit you, but would you ever be able to completely trust her??
And a relationship is based on trust...if there is no trust there is no relationship
i would spy on her to make sure
xoxsweetlips710xox
04-02-2006, 07:52 PM
in a relationship you shouldnt have a reason to spy on eachother...why would you wanna be with them if you dont trust them? If you have to spy on them you dont love them
STYLEgod
04-05-2006, 02:59 PM
Spying? Damn thats the worst feeling to go thru.. I wouldn't spy as long I think positive and feel that I can trust 'her' with about anything.
BeautyInTheBreakdown
04-05-2006, 04:44 PM
spyin? damn, i would never spy on someone. im not tryin to be a bitch or anythin, but it just shows how a)obsessive b)insecure c)paranoid someone is..and that you dont trust the person you're with and like xoxsweetlips710xox said, a relationship is all about trust and communication and if you have to spy, you obviously have none of that
Without trust it will fall apart.... :idea:
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Balla_Chik
04-05-2006, 09:44 PM
completely agreed. Sucks if you're gonna have to spy, what's the fun in that. You should be able to trust ya girl. If you were to spy and find out, it still sucks for her, but i mean that just completes contradicts having a relationship all together. It'll make you feel hecKa paranoid all the time anyway.
How will ya ever know if someone's being completely loyal? Its easy to play games these days.
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